Meet Betsy (Donovan) Marro
Today my best friend Betsy Marro, is in Rockport, Mass. —
all the way from San Diego — to talk about her debut novel, “Casualties.” Betsy
will be at Toad Hall at 7. Please join us for a little wine and cheese (we’re
celebrating), some good conversation and a short reading. Betsy has generously
donated a $25 Toad Hall gift certificate, to be raffled tonight. We are
planning on a very good time for all.
Betsy used to live here and work as the Rockport page editor
and reporter for the Gloucester Daily Times. Some readers will remember her
byline — at the time her last name was Donovan. I was so taken with Betsy’s
creative newswriting that I enlarged the focus of my college studies to include
journalism. We first met at UNH where we were both single moms getting our
degrees.
Today I am thrilled beyond words to celebrate Betsy’s
homecoming and the publication of her beautiful novel in my favorite bookstore,
Toad Hall. It so happens that my daughter Ardis, a librarian, is now Toad’s manager
and is the one who worked with Betsy to set up the reading. We love and work on
behalf of good books in my family. As we are wont to say when auspicious convergences
thrill us — “Who would have guessed?” Friends, old and new, gather in a small
bookstore on the rocky coast of a lovely little town at America’s edge to
welcome readers, celebrate literature, hug each other, and acknowledge a beloved
author’s awesome accomplishments. Please join us.
Welcome home, Betsy!
Below is my review of “Casualties” as well as a Q&A I
wrote, both published earlier in GateHouse Media newspapers.
A long, hard journey home
Casualties
By Elizabeth Marro.
Berkley, New York, 2016. 358 pages. $15.
Elizabeth Marro’s affecting and beautiful first novel,
“Casualties,” does not shy away from shame, regret and self-loathing — the underside
of parenting. She takes us places we don’t want to go, makes us look, makes us
feel. Her characters’ journey becomes ours and, as a consequence, we exult in
their hard-won reckonings.
“Casualties” begins on the West Coast, in San Diego, where
Ruth Nolan, an executive for a company that supplies contractors to support the
military in Iraq, sees her own son Robbie enlist in the Marines and take two
tours of duty in Iraq. She must put on a good face, given her work and all the
ex-military in the company, but she is distraught. And relieved. For once, she
does not have to carry all the responsibility for her troubled son.
Ruth and Robbie’s interdependence is fraught with
frustration and hurt. Ruth raised Robbie by herself, almost from the beginning.
While still living on the East Coast, she separated from his father in order to
join RyCon, a startup at the time. Robbie’s father was later killed in a skiing
accident. Loss was a constant for Ruth. Her mother walked out on Ruth and her
brother Kevin when they were young, leaving the maternal grandparents to raise
them on family farm in northern New Hampshire. What family Ruth and Robbie have
left live in northern New Hampshire, a part of the country Ruth couldn’t wait
to escape. She felt confined and limited there, while Robbie loved the
mountains, the family, the farm work, the fishing.
Mother and son, alone together in San Diego, tackled life
head on. Ruth, competitive and ambitious, helped grow RyCon as she tried to
help Robbie with his demons, including depression. But Robbie resisted Ruth,
whose demands and standards were not a good fit for him. They butted heads in
what feels like all-too-familiar, perhaps inescapable family dynamics.
Robbie’s suicide, which reads as inevitable, is nonetheless
a loss Ruth cannot comprehend. It is a suicide that, while provoked by war, has
deeper roots and Ruth knows that. There are reasons she feels responsible,
complicated as they may be, and her unbearable pain prevents even the
possibility of grieving. She does the one thing she and Robbie enjoyed together
— she gets in her car and drives. And thus we head into the heart of the story.
On the road, Ruth meets Casey, a 36-year-old injured veteran
who has settled for a scrap of a life gambling in casinos and sleeping off
benders in a tiny trailer. He suffers pain from an ill-fitting “faker” or
prosthesis and he endures bad headaches. He reluctantly helps Ruth after she is
brutally attacked in a parking lot in Nevada. Their brief but life-altering
connection, made during a road trip to the East Coast, is intense, at times
ugly, and, finally, redemptive. The need for absolution is all-powerful and
never guaranteed. Kudos to Marro for diving in and surfacing with our hearts in
hand.
“Casualties” is also adeptly plotted. RyCon, unbeknownst to
Ruth, had failed to process insurance paperwork for many of its military
contractors in war zones. A pending merger with another, bigger company may
have spurred these questionable business practices. Families and injured
contractors’ insurance claims have not been paid, and they begin a visible and
condemning protest outside RyCon’s offices just as Robbie gets back from Iraq.
Ruth discovers, once on the road, that RyCon’s owners — her
longtime colleagues —purposely circumvented rules. She must decide whether to
provide information that may help the contractors’ case against RyCon. If she
does blow the whistle, she will lose everything — her investment in the company
and her professional standing. At 47, she will be totally discredited.
Loss, both the kind you do not ask for and the kind you
invite, does not mean starting over. It does not mean giving up. Marro has
other plans for loss. Loss is sometimes the clearing out of the path we take to
heal ourselves of wounds long neglected. Loss opens up to vision.
Marro (known as Betsy Donovan when she worked on the North
Shore) now lives in San Diego. Early in her professional career, she lived in
and reported on Boston’s North Shore, including Rockport and Salem, Mass., for
what was then Essex County Newspapers. She will be on Cape Ann and Portsmouth,
N.H., to read from “Casualties” in April.
— Rae Padilla Francoeur
Rae Padilla Francoeur’s
memoir, “Free Fall: A Late-in-Life Love Affair,” is available online or in some
bookstores. Write her at rae.francoeur@gmail.com
Read her blog at http://www.freefallrae.blogspot.com/ or follow her @RaeAF.
Author Elizabeth (Betsy) Marro comes home to read from debut novel
Author Elizabeth Marro will read from and speak about her
debut novel, “Casualties,” at Toad Hall Bookstore in Rockport on Wednesday,
April 20, at 7 p.m., and at RiverRun Bookstore in Portsmouth on Thursday, April
21, at 6:30 p.m.
Marro grew up in northern New Hampshire and studied
journalism at the University of New Hampshire. She went on to complete
internships with Essex County Newspapers, and to report for The Gloucester
Daily Times. Her readers knew her as Elizabeth (Betsy) Donovan. She now lives
in San Diego but frequently returns to the area.
“Casualties,” which has been receiving stellar reviews, begins
in San Diego, where Ruth Nolan works as an executive for RyCon, a company that
supplies contractors to support the military in Iraq. She sees her own son,
Robbie, enlist in the Marines and take two tours of duty in Iraq. She must put
on a good face, given her work and all the ex-military in the company.
Mother and son, alone together in San Diego, tackle life
head on. Ruth, competitive and ambitious, helped grow RyCon as she tried to
help Robbie with his demons, including depression. But Robbie resists Ruth,
whose demands and standards are not a good fit for him. They butt heads in what
feels like all-too-familiar, perhaps inescapable family dynamics.
We spoke with Marro about writing “Casualties,” a novel
cited for its beautiful and moving portrayal of mother, son and grief.
Q: The mother-son
relationship is fertile ground. How were you able to achieve that palpable
tension between Robbie and Ruth?
Marro: These relationships are the biggest stories of our
lives. If nothing else, they leave their imprint both as a child and as a
parent. It was surprisingly easy for me to access that dynamic. I felt I had an
ear for it and am attuned to it. I am a parent and I have witnessed many
parents and children, have heard how sons talk to their mothers. And I’ve been
around a lot of young men as my son grew up. It was a very different thing than
being around my brothers when we were growing up. So the how part of this
question is answered by experience, though the relationship between Robbie and
Ruth is much much different. Also, I wrote many scenes that never saw the light
of day in this book, when Robbie was much younger. The parts we see came from
parts I wrote that we don’t see.
Q: Another compelling
conflict is Ruth’s desire to flee her New Hampshire home as soon as she can get
a job and get out, versus Robbie’s strong desire to go back to New Hampshire,
especially after his wartime service. Both characters’ drives, though opposing,
come from a similar need for separation. Was this conflict something you set
out to explore?
Marro: Ruth wants to peel out of there as a very young woman
and Robbie wants to go back at about the same age. There are little breaks from
your family as you go along, but when you are of age, that’s when the biggest
break comes.
Home is what you leave and it’s always what you carry with
you. It’s also what you need at different times in your life. Ruth never really
felt at home and wanted to make a home somewhere. Yet there’s a softer part of
her when she speaks of her brother and grandmother.
But with Robbie, the need is to go back to New Hampshire,
the place that felt like home. I’m thinking more that he’s going back to
reconnect with himself and a good part of his life, and he’s thinking it will
help him in some way. For him, it’s more of a refuge. He wants to go to the
last place he felt safe. When he left San Diego, he joined the Marines and they
became his family and his home.
Q: Few first novels
get published. Yours did. Can you talk about the steps that led to publication
of “Casualties”?
Marro: So many people say the first one you write never sees
the light of day. Over 10 years I worked on this novel and I can count two
other novels worth of pages that I wrote and took out. I’ve tried to write it
more than once. I had to put it away for a while and ask myself, when finally
returning to it — Is there anything here? It called me back. That led to a
better draft. Six hundred pages went away in the process and my husband said,
“All right, just go ahead and finish it.” Also, I should add that I’m a demon
for closure. When I start something I can’t move on to another project till I
finish the one I’m working on.
Q: How did you come
to your fine ending?
I had found what I thought was the ending. But my agent
pushed me further. She said she wanted a better sense of a chance of
resolution, that there is a life after all that had happened. That a reader can
more readily speculate about what comes next. With that in mind I went back and
this ending materialized and I liked it better.
Q: Ruth is rescued
from a dire situation. Why was that essential to your story?
The reason I put Ruth in some pretty rough moments is that her
self awareness is not that acute. You want someone to take over the punishment
you can’t give yourself. That would be the character Casey. And I thought that Casey’s
rescue of Ruth showed his soft streak.
Q: How did Ruth and
Casey’s road trip serve you as a storyteller?
From a storyteller’s perspective, they are each on a journey
and the road trip helped me to structure the book. It gave me space and time.
Felt very natural. I’ve personally taken long road trips at different times in
my life and even the most boring one left me with a different sense of the
world from when I started out. And there’s nothing quite like closed quarters
to bring people out fast. There’s an almost physical friction that wears away
the coverings we put on everybody. Also I like that element of being in another
world — you’re going through it but not really in it.
Q: Finally, what’s it
like, coming home with this book?
Marro: It’s completely emotional. For me, it was always
something I had hoped to be able to do. Everything I finished here in San Diego
got started in New Hampshire where I grew up and in Rockport, the place I think
of as my second home. The first idyllic experience I ever had happened in
Rockport. I have so much connection in my heart, even though I haven’t lived
there for years. Everybody back home knew what I was trying to do. This is
really a coming home deal for me. I celebrate that.
— Rae Padilla Francoeur
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